Marriage & Family Counselling in London
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Marriage & Family Counselling in London: Introduction
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During marriage counselling in London, you will have the chance to go for sessions either individually or as a couple.
UK online counsellors usually recommend joint sessions. However, this depends on your specific needs.
Most times, you will be attending sessions along with your spouse. In certain cases, your Therapist may want to talk to either of you individually as well.
TYHO Therapists in London are highly skilled in several approaches, such as emotionally focused therapy and the Gottman method.
Your marriage counsellor will tailor the therapeutic plan based on the following:
- Your specific situation
- The severity of the problem
- Your individual goals
- Your mutual couple goals and objectives
According to 2021 statistics, 113,5050 married couples opted for a divorce in England and Wales. Compared to 2020, there was also a 9,6% increase in divorce rates.
Fewer and fewer people in England and Wales are getting married. However, the divorce rates are ever-increasing. This shows that there is a dire need for marriage counselling in the UK.
Research shows that online marriage counselling can:
- Make a significant difference in saving marriages
- Help spouses move on after separation
Recent research indicates that:
- Almost three-quarters of couples who completed marriage counselling in the UK understood the relationship better.
- Nearly 58% of people reported that counselling improved their self-understanding.
- Around 48% of Britons understood their spouse better than before.
Therefore, it can help to shift our perspective about marriage counselling from a focus on solely ‘saving the marriage’ to a focus on improving the quality and interactions of the relationship irrespective of whether or not the couple decides to stay together.
All TYHO marriage Therapists in London are qualified with a minimum of master’s in counselling.
You will receive unconditional support and guidance during sessions, and your UK psychologist will not take ‘any sides’.
Family Therapy
We usually rely on family for support, guidance, encouragement, and unconditional love.
In reality, very few families meet these expectations all the time. The relationship between family members is often associated with stress, misunderstandings, anger, hurt, and unmet needs. (See: Why Does My Mom Hate Me?)
Family issues can often come up when we fall into the habit of playing certain roles within our family dynamic.
These roles can affect authentic communication and emotional satisfaction.
At TYHO, your online family counsellor will focus on identifying behaviour patterns and exploring the history of relationships to establish effective communication and behavioural practices that are more conducive to adult relationships.
Through the scientific skills you learn in therapy, you can communicate effectively and develop more constructive ways of behaving that will lead to better interactions and family dynamics.
In these sessions, TYHO Therapists perceive the family as a cohesive emotional entity (ie the concept of viewing a family as a unified group that is closely connected in terms of emotions and feelings).
You are a part of your family, and anything you say or do will have a reciprocal impact on all member’s emotions, thoughts, and actions.
For example, if a parent is constantly working and spends little to no time with the family – their spouse may feel lonely and stressed, and the children may feel abandoned or unloved.
Our family Therapists in London may use evidence-based tools like systemic family therapy to help you:
- Communicate and interact more honestly
- Address complex issues in the family (eg loss, divorce, physical health conditions)
- Gain an understanding of each family member’s emotional needs and feelings
UK Therapists may conduct sessions with all the family members, either individually or as a group.
Additionally, if your family isn’t ready for family therapy, you can also consider individual counselling in London.
Your personal growth in therapy can be a catalyst for your loved ones to start online family counselling.
How Can TYHO Counsellors Help You?
Family counselling in London can help in a variety of situations, such as:
- Adapting to major life changes
- Managing mental or behavioural issues within the family
- Financial issues
- Grief
- Everyday stressors (ie work-related stress or sibling rivalries)
In London, family therapy focuses on solving persistent conflicts and helps create a positive and happy family environment.
When you experience family conflicts, your loved ones may struggle to share their true thoughts. Even if they do, their feelings may affect or cause emotional harm to others.
However, families usually experience hurt due to a lack of understanding of what the other member is going through.
Our team of family Therapists in the UK provide a safe and supportive environment. This nurturing atmosphere during therapy can help you and your family view each other’s problems objectively and non-judgmentally.
The perspective shift is important to solve conflicts as it involves a collective effort from all family members.
Family counselling in London offers many benefits, including:
- Recognising conflicts and coming up with solutions to solve them
- Gaining insight into each family member’s perspective
- Identifying and addressing negative thinking or behavioural patterns
- Developing a personalised therapeutic plan to improve communication and problem-solving
- Acquiring conflict resolution skills, assertive, and shared responsibilities
- Replacing harmful behaviours (like casting blame) with positive alternatives
- Improving trust and openness among family members
The concept of a ‘normal’ family is a myth. Every family structure, in its own way, is distinct and special.
How your family is ‘made up’ is personal and subjective. Your family interactions are also greatly influenced by your culture.
For example, in some cultures, family members may avoid talking openly, and this may be a normal situation for them. However, for families outside this cultural interaction, it may appear ‘imperfect’.
Similarly, your family’s various situations, interactions, challenges, and bonds are complex, multifaceted, and unique to you.
For example, your bond with your sister may completely differ from the one you share with your mother. Therefore, even the dynamics of family members within the same family can be very different.
Nevertheless, you might sometimes feel, or even be concerned, that your feelings or experiences regarding your family are abnormal or unusual.
Rest assured, this is not true. Although every family is different, the issues they face are often universal. Several families may face issues such as:
- Lack of communication
- Mistrust
- Anger issues
In an ideal world, our families provide unconditional support and love. And indeed, many families do provide this kind of nurturing environment.
However, it’s important to recognise that every family, regardless of how close, affectionate, or supportive they appear – has its own set of challenges.
Familial relationships can lead to a range of emotions (ie both positive and negative), including:
- Irritation
- Anxiety
- Pain
- Remorse
- Guilt
- Shame
- Happiness
- Competitiveness
- Jealousy
- Compassion
From minor annoyances to major conflicts and to feelings we never realised we had – family dynamics can trigger intense emotional responses.
Seeking marriage counselling in London can help you in several ways, and it’s a great decision!
Your reason to look for professional support is completely valid, and your problems do not have to be severe or ‘beyond help’.
In London, married couples usually turn to marriage counselling when they face difficulties in:
- Communication
- Dissatisfaction with the marriage
- Decision-making (especially when it comes to major life decisions like having a child)
For those with children, online family counselling offered by TYHO can be a valuable resource to address familial challenges and improve overall dynamics.
For example, you can truly learn to understand why your teenager acts the way they do and why your spouse seems to be stressed all the time.
Our marriage counsellors in the UK may use several evidence-based therapeutic strategies to help you:
- Handle conflicts
- Better understand your roles as parents
- Address issues such as emotional detachment and lack of intimacy
Many couples hesitate to seek help due to social stigma and fear of being judged by loved ones.
However, if you try to handle everything independently, it can quickly become overwhelming – and ignoring your problems will not solve them.
So, know that by seeking help, you are doing the right thing for yourself and your family!
Through marriage counselling, you can also cope with external stressors, such as:
- Occupational stress
- Caregiving stress
- Experiences of domestic violence
- Traumatic events
- Physical health challenges
- Grief
- Feelings of isolation
Furthermore, if either you or your partner is dealing with mental health concerns, such as generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) or chronic depression – marriage counsellors in London can provide the right support.
At TYHO, online therapy sessions typically last for 60 minutes.
Married couples on our platform usually opt for weekly sessions. This is because the familiarity creates a strong connection with their couple’s Therapist.
In fact, research conducted in the UK shows that the therapeutic relationship is the most important factor in relation to positive therapy outcomes – regardless of the type of approach used.
We encourage you to actively collaborate with your Therapist to decide how often you should meet them with your partner.
Try to be open to your marriage counsellor’s suggestion – as depending on your issues and goals – they may know best about the frequency of therapy!
In London, therapy involves active participation from both partners. This includes being honest about your problems, asking questions, exploring challenges together, and completing assignments given by your marriage Therapist.
Your therapy homework may either involve individual exercises for you and your spouse or activities where you both may have to work together.
Before starting your first session, try to prepare a set of questions with your partner. These could cover areas like:
- Your UK psychologist’s methods (ie whether they use a client-centric approach)
- Regularity and consistency of therapy sessions
- Your shared objectives
- Your Therapist’s professional background
Your Therapist in London will also likely probe into aspects of your relationship, individual backgrounds, personal challenges, and shared goals.
Initially, your Therapist will evaluate your needs, either individually or as a couple.
Based on the identified issues and your expectations from therapy, your Therapist will tailor a therapeutic plan specifically for you.
This plan might involve a single therapeutic technique or a combination of several methods.
Frequently Asked Questions
If you and your spouse are committed to making the required changes, it is entirely possible to save your toxic marriage.
Marriage counselling in London makes it possible for you to learn several scientific tools and skills to fix your relationship problems.
Therefore, most issues in marriage have the potential to be handled and overcome.
However, do remember that your marriage counsellor can help you identify all the warning signs of an abusive relationship.
If saving your marriage comes at the expense of you undervaluing or ignoring your needs – you might want to reconsider the entire marriage.
Regardless of whatever you choose to you, your online counsellor at TYHO will be with you every step of the way.
First comes love, then comes relationship, then comes… relationship counselling?
Not always, but relationship or marriage counselling can help you reach the next stage (no matter where you are in your life)!
The next stage could be moving in together, adopting a pet, or even marriage.
Therefore, the answer is yes! It is worth going to a marriage counsellor.
Online marriage counselling can not only help you with existing problems in the relationship but can also help you with the following:
- Prepare for any significant life or relationship changes
- Better understand your partner
- Define roles and responsibilities in the marriage
- Learn real-life skills to overcome future problems together
On the other hand, if you are still single, marriage counselling (or couples counselling) can still help you:
- Develop social skills
- Gain the courage to meet new people
- Become bolder and more confident
- Move on from an unrequited love
- Move on from your ex
There are no ‘wrong’ topics to discuss during marriage counselling. You can talk about anything and everything you want with your marriage counsellor in London.
However, since you may be attending marriage counselling along with your spouse, what not to say in marriage counselling may depend on the boundaries that you and your partner have set.
For example, if your partner is not yet comfortable talking about their social anxiety – it may be best to avoid that subject.
Similarly, if you prefer not to discuss your past relationships – your partner and your Therapist will not touch that subject until you are ready.
At TYHO, our marriage counsellors have a patient and non-judgmental attitude. Hence, your marriage counsellor will make you feel comfortable and help you open up eventually.
Marriage counselling at TYHO can either be short-term or long-term.
You may have around eight sessions during short-term marriage therapy. On the other hand, long-term therapy may last a couple of months or years.
Do remember that there are no strict rules about how long therapy should last.
Every couple’s progress and journey are different; hence, how long you need marriage counselling depends on the following:
- Your presenting problems
- Your shared couple goals
- Timeline to achieve your goals
Your marriage Therapist in the UK can help you decide the number of sessions you need to make the changes you wish in your marriage!
Research shows that marriage counselling positively impacts nearly 70% of the couples who attend.
Since the 1980s, the percentage of positive therapy outcomes has increased by 20%.
In fact, modern-day marriage counselling has improved so much that the changes created during therapy are long-lasting.
Hence, marriage counselling is effective. However, the effectiveness also depends on several factors.
You can get the most out of online marriage counselling in London if both you and your spouse want to attend and actively work towards creating positive change.
This is not to say that counselling will not be successful if only one of you wants to attend. Your marriage has the potential to improve even if only one partner seeks counselling.
The reason is that the partner who has decided to seek therapy may observe positive changes in the way they interact with their partner.
The changes may hence motivate the other spouse to also seek therapy!
To find a good family Therapist in the UK, please visit this link – https://app.talkyourheartout.com/.
Here, you can filter UK family Therapists based on gender, issues, languages, and more.
Visit each family counsellor’s profile to read about their:
- Qualifications
- Expertise
- Background
- Cultural exposure
- Certifications
- Therapeutic approaches
You can sit with your family to choose someone you all feel good about.
Initially, you can attend around 3-4 family therapy sessions to gauge the fit.
Feel free to change the Therapist if any of you feel uncomfortable.
It may take some time to find the best family Therapist for your family, and that’s completely normal!
